Sunday, February 17, 2019

Are You a Negative Nancy?!?

Negative Nancy glaring at your happiness
We all have that one friend or associate who finds every little thing wrong with a situation and then writes themselves off as a "realist" and these are the same people that have constant drama.

These Negative Nancies come in all forms. Which one are you?

1. The friend that calls you about their drama and when you find a solution- they think of 10,000 reasons why that solution won't work.
2. Family member who asks you how you are doing and when they hear one thing that may not be 100% in line with their opinion- they offer a negative anecdote instead of encouragement for everything else.
3. Co-worker that complains all day about being at work and calls those people who are busting their butt "brown nosers".
4.  Church folk that talk smack behind other members back.
5.  The sideline reporter. Oh, these people, they watch everyone and talk about what "they should've done"
6. Gossip Queen: They thrive on chaos and love to talk about how things are going wrong. Never bring up exciting things on the horizon.

Whatever number you are, y'all have something in common: You are a HAPPINESS SUCKER!

I have fallen in to these categories at some point in my life and I tell you when you snap out of it... you are left disgusted with yourself.

1. Start your day on a good note: 3 things you are grateful for, prayer, positive affirmations or exercise!
2. Listen to your friends rather than judge. If you are always on the alert for how things are awful or can turn awful - ew. Listen to your friends, they may need some empathy, hapiness, or just an ear.
3.  Smiling can change your demeanor. When you smile you find others will smile with you and in turn the less likely negativity is to be shared.
4. Self care. You may be unhappy. It happens. When you aren't happy with yourself, you are more likely to not find joy in much. Take time for yourself
5. Are your friends negative? Surround yourself with people that believe in you and want you to succeed. They have your best interest and don't want to see you unhappy.
6. Success is addictive. It's true. When you accomplish things and your mindset is in tune with your goals, watch out!!!

Wednesday, January 23, 2019

How to be Prepared for your DIY Home Renovation

We made our first real estate purchase back in September and were hoping we would be all moved in by Christmas well- Valentine's Day is approaching and we aren't very close to moving in at all.  The reason? We did what everyone has been wanting to do since Chip and Joanna Gaines, Property Brothers, etc have come on TV- WE BOUGHT A FIXER UPPER.

Now, I know what you are thinking...that's a big task. Well, you don't even know the half of it!! I have been doing Instagram updates >Follow Here < along the way and that in itself still hasn't captured the full experience.

Learning from my mistake, here are the things you need to do to prepare for your home renovations:

  1. Set Priorities: What are your must haves and what are things that you don't think are that important? Is it important to have entertaining space, private space, play area, fancy bathrooms, etc. After that, go room by room and get specific (ex: heated towel rack in bathroom, apron sink) then take it back to your spouse or living partner and revisit priorities. You will want to keep this handy as it may change as your projects progress. 
  2. Budget!!: Some of things are harder to budget than others especially if it your first time doing a renovation. My rule of thumb? Always tack on 15-20% of your quoted costs. You also want to revisit that priority list and get real with yourself. Is it worth to have that $500.00 apron sink or will a $200.00 sink be just fine? Remember, be very strict with your budget because nothing is worse than having a beautiful kitchen if your den looks like it came straight out of the 70's. 
  3. Stay Organized: Keep it together by communicating constantly and keeping a check list. Yes, some of you hate the idea of a check list but, they are my secret weapon. If I don't have a check list, I'm lost. Remember step 1? Well, that is taken in to account when making a checklist. If a top priority is getting a gorgeous kitchen- well guess what is on top of my checklist along with a nice % of my budget- KITCHEN. 
  4. Stay Organized Physically: Paint brushes, dust, tools, nails, screws- oh, they get everywhere. So much so, that sometimes you walk in and think "How are we going to get out of this mess?" Positive attitudes strive in organized environments. Keep your space clean and you will feel that you can accomplish anything.
  5. Communication: I can not stress how this is beyond the most important factor when DIYing. Your vision becomes a reality when you have a plan in place. Tips 1-4 will not be achievable if you do not have a plan that has been thoroughly discussed. Seriously. I, for instance, felt that our lay out needed to change dramatically- my husband did not. We talked it through keeping our priorities and budget in mind and came to a solution that accomplishes everything we wanted. Was it what I had in mind? No. Am I happy? Yes
I hope this was helpful and if you have more specific questions regarding planning a DIY project, I will be happy to help you figure it out.